I was speaking to a certain sub one evening about the nature of Dominance and submission. Control and Release. As we talked, I kept using a certain word that seemed to perplex her. But being the good girl she was, she didn’t say anything or even try to correct me. Yet... I could see something about it was making her uneasy. When I scanned her mind, I confirmed that the word I was using to describe the act of submission had her at odds with how she felt her own submissiveness. I stopped using it and moved on to more distracting topics.
But it did get me thinking...

My travels have afforded me time to reflect on many erotic and incredible desires. For myself, I tend to crave the Dominance... The Control...

I get off on it.

To me, a sub is like a elegant instrument. A piece of art that needs a Dom to truly realize his or her potential. When a D/s relationship blooms under the right conditions, they make for the most wonderful and powerful symphonies. A Stradivarius will never produce a beautiful melody while being played by a mechanic trying to be a musician. And likewise, a world class musician could never create an opus with a monkey wrench.

Both are needed.

Along the way, I have discovered a simple truth that in my mind, has brought me to question what I really like about Dominance. This realization has even brought me to question if I am a true Dom. I’ve had this discussion many times and some understand it, and others simply do not. And after much thought, I believe that I am. Even if I seem to contradict myself.

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There is something infinitely erotic about a woman that trusts you so completely, with all her being, that she is willing to give up control. Willing to give you ‘carte blanche’ to her body and mind.
In many ways, I find myself cherishing such incredible trust. Of course, to have a woman completely willing to follow your commands. To be eager to satisfy your every desire and pleausre... That too is pretty arousing.
True submission, when done properly, creates a unique bond between a Master and his/her slave. And it all comes from the trust they both have for the other.
In exchange for her free will, the slave experiences a bliss in that very abandonment of choice. To know your pain and pleasure is out of your hands can bring the most intense euphoria for those who crave it. 

Give and take...

If trust is earned by the Master, they receive a gift that is in fact a burden even more heavy than giving up your free will. A thing so precious some Doms don’t see it or respect it. A thing that makes everything so worth wild in such a relationship:  They become utterly responsible for that person. All of her/him... The Good and the Bad... The pleasure and the pain... The achievements and the failures... 

When you truly think about it, it’s no small thing. The rewards of such responsibilities are infinite, but one must earn the other.

Through trust.